I’ve struggled with it for 20 years of my life working in Hotels and people in Hospitality. Typically, I blame it on having epilepsy. But if I was being truly honest, more likely, it is simply a character flaw hidden somewhere deep in my heart.
I’ve lived most of my life comparing myself to others. At first, it was school and sports. But as I got older, I began comparing other things – job title, income level and other successes?
The tendency to compare ourselves to others is as human as any other emotion. But it is a decision that only steals joy from our lives. And it is a habit you should stop.
Comparisons are always unfair. We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others. We each get 86,400 seconds each day. And using even one to compare yourself to another is one second too many.
Your talents and the contributions you can make in your Hotel are too unique to compare fairly. Value you give to others is entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. They can never be properly compared to anyone else.
You have nothing to gain, but much to lose…your pride, your dignity, your drive, and your passion. You can control one life—yours. But when we constantly compare ourselves to others around the Hotel, we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own.
Comparisons often result in resentment towards others and towards ourselves. Comparisons deprive us of joy. They add no value, meaning, or fulfilment to our lives. They only distract from it. How then, might we break free from this habit of comparison?
Which-ever Hotel Department you work in, whether you have just started working or are deep into your career, you have unique experiences and unique gifts. You have a real capacity to serve and to contribute. You have everything you need to accomplish good in your little section of the world of Hospitality.
There may be times when competition is appropriate, but life is not one of them. The first and most important step in overcoming the habit of competition is to routinely appreciate and compliment the contribution of others. Remind yourself nobody is perfect. And everybody is suffering, whether you are close enough to know it or not.
Comparing our lives with others is foolish. But finding inspiration and learning from others around the Hotel is entirely normal and wise. Work hard to learn the difference.